Being cruel to be kind

On a rainy, foggy day, she heard a song. After listening to it over and over, her voice expelled into the surrounding mist. There was no road. There were no cars. Only faceless lives that sped past her peripheral. And it was precisely then, she realized, what was whispering in the recesses of her mind.


Take your eyes off of me so I can leave
I'm far too ashamed to do it with you watching me
This is never ending, we have been here before
But I can't stay this time cause I don't love you anymore
Please stay where you are
Don't come any closer
Don't try to change my mind
I'm being cruel to be kind

Judgement Day

...and she lifts her head up ever, so slowly. Looking around, she evaluates the damage that has occurred. Is it too much to internalize? That is all she does. Internalize, analyze and judge. How can judgment be made by me, myself and I, she asks? Who is there to listen to the internal rumblings of a woman who can no longer accept the status quo? Her head is heavy, her heart is heavy, her soul is muddled. Only three people listen.


As she maneuvers through the meteorites of an unknown world, its like a Star Wars prequel in her universe. She must revert back to a time when the universe around her was readable.


A space where yesterday was but a nostalgic reminder of what can never be again. Repeatable. She cannot depend on time that ceases to be remembered. Is she enveloping a new universe? Must she mold it into a wondrous time that is yet to occur?


She looks out from her mind's eye and waits for a sign.

Drifting

Whatever happens, don't let go of my hand...MJ

Are you listening? Coz I have something to say.....

When the Universe does not respond accordingly, tell it what you want it to do.

Status Quo

It is more risky to stay status quo. Be the change.

Screw the Selfie - Listen to yourself

Self talk

There's no more important criticism than self criticism.


There's no amount of external validation that can undo the constant drone of internal criticism.

And negative self talk is hungry for external corroboration. One little voice in the ether that agrees with your internal critic is enough to put you in a tailspin.



The remedy for negative self talk, then, is not the search for unanimous praise from the outside world. It's a hopeless journey, and one that destroys the work, because you will water it down in fear of that outside critic that amplifies your internal one.



The remedy is accurate and positive self talk. Endless amounts of it.



Not delusional affirmations or silly metaphysical pronouncements about the universe. No, merely the reassertion of obvious truths, a mantra that drives away the nonsense the lizard brain is selling as truth.
 

You cannot reason with negative self talk or somehow persuade it that the world disagrees. All you can do is surround it with positive self talk, drown it out and overwhelm it with concrete building blocks of great work, the combination of expectation, obligation and possibility.



When in doubt, tell yourself the truth. --Seth Godin

Hope

I am inhaling the winds of change and exhaling the mist of time past.

It's all in one look

A smile is so sexy, yet so warm. When someone genuinely smiles at you, it's the greatest feeling in the world.

Everything sounds great and intellectual with a British accent

I am a little foggy, a little soggy....

The Thirst

Glass is always half full - but the contents are not always consumable...

My Sandbag Necklace

The things you dread the most are actually what sits heavily on your ability to move forward.

Signs

People are blind to the signs. Let your heart open your eyes instead.

Little Birdie

Sometimes there are days when I cannot articulate how I am feeling and then a little birdie sums it all up and the sky opens wide. Thank you, my little hummingbird....


The idea that toxic isn't defined by the presence of something negative but the absence of one's best.

Shortest blog post for a new year

It has been over a year and a half that I haven't posted. Squeeze me? Yeah, that's all I have to say. And this...

The most erotic thing is when a man massages a woman's mind. Take it and go.